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I am a 15-year-old schoolboy. This year a new girl took admission in my class. More than often, in the beginning, I saw her staring at me. Sometimes even I gave a look to her. This happened for many days.

Amidst this, I realised that I started liking that girl! I have kinda a crush on her.

Once I heard her talk about Harry Potter with her bench partner. May be she is a potterhead? Cause I am a potterhead! So this can be a starting point for the conversation. We have never talked to each other ever before, so this would be first time I will be interacting with her.

How do I mix up with her properly by starting a conversation?

Location: Maharashtra (state), India. In India, specially where I come from, at least in my school, it's not so common for boys to talk with girls in open, due to many pre assumed notions.

EDIT 1: I got her number from her school friend. Now my question is similar to this: How to contact a girl whose number I got from somebody else?

I am not referring to the answers here because the context is different. It's more on dating - girlfriend side, and we are just school students.

How do I message her without being seen as creepy? I have her WhatsApp number. I don't wanna tell her that I like her at very first, but rather become friendly with her.

EDIT 2: I have confirmed that she's a big fan of Harry Potter. So, I have an idea. What if I message her something like this:

After all this time?

This is one of the most popular lines in the Harry Potter series. I expect that she might reply:

Always .

Then I would introduce myself. Is it a good idea? I hope someone finds this worth answerable.

AbVk1718
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  • How do you know she was staring at you if this was done online? Anyway, maybe try asking her a question about homework/course materials. – Stephan Branczyk Feb 21 '22 at 17:40
  • The staring took place in classroom, no where I mentioned it was done online – AbVk1718 Feb 21 '22 at 18:25
  • @StephanBranczyk this might not work as she will doubt as to why I am asking her and not other girls to whom I am friends with – AbVk1718 Feb 21 '22 at 18:26
  • "*I want to tell her over text that I like her.*" -> how would you get her number at first? – OldPadawan Feb 21 '22 at 18:41
  • So, you can't directly tell her. But how much conversation are you planning on having first then? What topics do you need to converse about? – Tinkeringbell Feb 22 '22 at 07:21
  • Yeah, I can't directly tell her as it might make a bad impression of mine (I think so). I think I can talk about her interests. About her likes or dislikes, or something better if someone suggests. There's no limit for me on how long the conversation may go. @Tinkeringbell – AbVk1718 Feb 22 '22 at 08:41
  • If there's something else I should mention or add, do let me know, so that it becomes easier to answer the question. – AbVk1718 Feb 22 '22 at 13:28
  • Anyone with any suggestion or advice? – AbVk1718 Feb 24 '22 at 10:53
  • In my experience as an Indian, people I knew talked to their interests through social media like Instagram and all. The idea of asking phone number is some what culturally inappropriate. – Buraian Feb 24 '22 at 15:16
  • So will it be a good idea to msg her on MS teams or Instagram (not sure if she has an account)? @Buraian – AbVk1718 Feb 24 '22 at 15:27
  • Please don't use comment box to chit-chat or partial answer, you can do that in chat :) – OldPadawan Feb 24 '22 at 16:37
  • @OldPadawan where can I find the chat box? – AbVk1718 Feb 24 '22 at 17:07
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    The awkward silence [chat is here](https://chat.stackexchange.com/?tab=site&host=interpersonal.stackexchange.com) – OldPadawan Feb 24 '22 at 18:16

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Don't. That's kind of creepy. You should ask HER for her number. I know that I would be very creeped out if someone texted me without me giving them my number first.

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