Housemates are people that you share a house with, but not a room.
Questions tagged [housemates]
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How to tactfully ask a housemate to leave
Background: Me and my fiancée have been living together for three years, two in our actual residence. Half a year ago we invited a friend of mine, who was coming to the city we live in to study, to live with us. We didn't set a limit on how much…
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How to stop an unofficial housemate from leaving cigarette ends in our plates and cups?
I'm a student, living with four other non-students, who've all recently graduated. There's one girl, let's call her Sarah, who officially doesn't live here, but effectively does; she stays around all the time, smokes cigarettes and weed in my…
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How can I convince my housemate to be less wasteful?
My housemate, a good friend, is very wasteful. We knew each other pretty well before moving in together but I didn't realise quite how wasteful he is. It bothers me a lot. I don't know how to either accept it or change his behaviour. Currently, I'm…
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Two friends and their wedlocked affair
I currently live in a house with 3 other people, my girlfriend Julie, and 2 friends Bob and John. Outside of our household, we have a friend named Jane, who is our only friend that is married in our group currently. Bob and Jane are brother/sister…
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How to ask my housemate to take better care of his pets?
We have three kittens (around 16 weeks old) and a bearded dragon in our household. The kittens are well fed and looked after because I look after all three of them. I have no qualms with that at all. They're little dudes.
The problem lies with the…
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How can I ask a stranger who I'd be living with if he believes in weird things?
I'm a master student (20+) that for the last 6 months has been renting a room in an older woman's (50+) house, that is we're living in the same house (just two of us). Unfortunately, I didn't have a possibility to check the house and room myself…
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Roommate says she won't/can't take out trash. How to ask for compensation?
I moved into a shared home where the landlord is also one of the people living in the suite I share. After moving in she told me she can't take out the garbage or recycling. I don't know why she can't.
I don't mind doing extra once in a while but I…
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Primary roommate wants me to give him copy of key to my bedroom and I don't want to
A few months ago I moved into a shared house. Things are great. The area is good, rent is moderate, house itself is good, and I do like the people I live with. However, someone is making a request/demand I am uncomfortable with.
There are 6 people…
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How to talk to someone about work after their significant other passed away
I recently moved into a shared home where my landlord is one of the roommates. Shortly after her husband passed away. Understandably she’s been upset and stressed. Also I was told it was the husband who generally took care of things around the…
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Very moody gf not helping in household
My GF and I split the cost of our rent with the promise that she pays less and does the household instead. She only works 80%, I do 100%, thus we decided that I pay 60% and she 40% of the rent and she does the household instead.
This didn't work for…
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How to decline giving personal information until you recieved some in return
I need to move and find a new home to rent. The city I live in is having a housing crisis (as declared by the mayor). I think many landlords take advantage of this. I know that they’re just trying to protect themselves from being ripped off but a…
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How can I emphasise to my housemate that I'm really not interested in discussing my diet with him anymore?
Because we're in such close proximity and we share a kitchen, he'll see that I do things a little differently to him. (one example would be that I drink almond milk instead of cow's milk).
Which it seems is a trigger for questions, which then moves…
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Dishes are still dirty after my housemate "cleans" them. How to address the issue?
We all know the classic "my housemate is a slob" issue. Quite often, people get frustrated because their housemates do not clean after themselves. My issue is a little bit different, in that my housemate does clean up the dishes once in a while, but…
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When looking for shared living accommodation, how to ask if room can be locked?
I'm looking for a new place to live. I would likely be living in a shared place where I don't know everyone. While I wouldn't move into a place where I didn't trust everyone, I feel much better having a lock on my door (that can lock from the…
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How can I set expectations with roommates/housemates a year into the arrangement, and make sure we hold each other to it?
As a small bit of background, I have lived with my boyfriend for about three years now. A year ago, my younger brother (20 at the time, 21 now) moved in with us after hitting a rough patch on his own. This was agreed to by the boyfriend, so that…
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