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Questions tagged [roommates]

For questions pertaining to people who share accommodation, whether a room or a house, but without necessarily being in "a relationship."

For questions pertaining to people who share accommodation, whether a room or a house, but without necessarily being in "a relationship." This can be in a friendship group or as a less personal economic-based cohabitation.

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My roommate is making me pay too much for rent. How can I confront him?

I just moved to a new city for my master studies. I met a man via a social website who is already living here and he offered to rent me his two room apartment for a year while he was studying abroad, then there would be a possibility to extent my…
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Asking landlord to stop letting himself in the house

I live in a large house shared with several other roommates. The landlord has been letting himself in, often without a clear reason. This is illegal where I live. Sometimes I do not see him myself, but he leaves notes for us or makes changes to the…
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How to get across to flatmates the reason behind not wanting to live with them again?

Some Background I am a 21 year old female, House mates ages: Alice is 21, Beth is 20 and Katie is 19, Obviously, the flatmates names have been changed to protect their anonymity We lived in a student apartment complex I lived with the same two…
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How to negotiate with landlady in a shared home who flat out says "no"?

I moved into a shared home with roommates. The landlady and her husband are two of the roommates. I've been having issues with storage space. Today she was cleaning up and she was about to throw out (or at least move) somethings I need for work. I…
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How to establish boundaries with a roommate without confrontation?

For some context - this is my first semester in college where I'm having a roommate, and there have been several complications. It's off-campus housing and we don't attend the same university. My roommate has lots of friends and is more or less a…
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Different budgets within roommate group

I'm a third-year student/ junior at a US university, and I'm about to move into an apartment with three friends of mine. The main reason I wanted to move was to save money, and I thought this was the primary reason for my friends too. However, we've…
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Apologizing to an old roommate

This happened two decades ago where one of my roommates was friendly to me. But, I was rash, rude and had a condescending attitude and never acknowledged her friendly gestures. She helped me when I was ill but I was too ashamed of myself to thank…
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How to deal with a suite mate who gossips about me within the first few days of move-in

I am an Asian female college student. This semester, I'm placed to live with two American female roommates in an apartment suite, so we all have separate bedrooms and share a kitchen and a restroom. I just moved in two days ago, but one of my…
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Resolve conflicts with my roommates now that my parents expect my cat, which occasionally poops outside its litter box, to stay with me permanently

I've had my cat for the past 13 years and it is very important to me. The cat used to live at my parents place, as did I; I moved out two years ago. Recently, my parents took a 4-month vacation and I took the cat to my apartment (pets are allowed,…
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How to deal with a friend I live with who doesn't want to pay bills when he's not there?

I have a friend; let's call him X. My girlfriend, X, and I have all lived together (on paper) for about a year and a half. About 6 months ago he got a girlfriend who lives a few hours away. For the past 4-5 months he has been staying over at her…
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How do I politely ask my friend for a refund on unused rent?

TL;DR: I need ask for a refund without ruining a friendship. I needed to move out of my student apartment since I am not a student anymore. I did not want to move back in with my parents. My friend offered his bed & breakfast for 1 month. He…
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How to ask my partner not to postpone chores?

We've been living together for about a year. Things don't always go as well as they should due to my partner postponing chores A LOT. I on the other hand like to be organised as doing things on time leaves us with more time to do other things and…
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How to let someone know he hurt me without spreading negative feelings

I am living in a flat with 3 other persons, 2 females and 1 male. I am a 25 year old male too. I have some romantic feelings for one of the female flatmates, Alice, but we have never spoken about it nor do I think she knows it. Alice was having a…
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How to deal with someone who belittles you in social situations

I've been living with my housemate for just over 3 years (June was the 3 year mark). She's female and I'm male. We haven't had any issues living together up until her and her boyfriend broke up in November last year. She went from being someone who…
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How can I decline a hug without offending?

My boyfriend shares an apartment with an older man who has a physical disability which prevents him from walking. The housemate is very kind and intelligent. However, sometimes when I am alone with him he will ask me to come over and give him a hug.…
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