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Questions tagged [college]

For questions pertaining to post-secondary education.

For questions pertaining to situations arising due to post-secondary education. This may include, for instance, sixth form and further education in the United Kingdom, and colleges and universities in the USA. It may also include post-compulsory/post secondary study elsewhere.

For questions involving pre-college education, use the tag instead.

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How do I deal with someone people think is funny, but I think is mean?

There is someone that dropped out of college but still visits our friend group about once a month who tries to be funny by making intentionally hurtful comments to 2 or 3 different people in the group of 10 to 15. Usual comments are like "wow you…
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How to politely tell a friend that I want to hang out with her, but not invite others?

I have a crush on my college friend and want to take her out to cinemas or other places. When I ask her out, she always asks me if her female friend could go along with her. I know it's not a date just hang out together. But, I really only want the…
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How to get across to flatmates the reason behind not wanting to live with them again?

Some Background I am a 21 year old female, House mates ages: Alice is 21, Beth is 20 and Katie is 19, Obviously, the flatmates names have been changed to protect their anonymity We lived in a student apartment complex I lived with the same two…
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How can I get out of sitting between two professors?

Earlier this week, my research group (~6 students) was having a catered, buffet-style dinner with our faculty leader, who I'm close with (we'll call him Professor Bob), and a professor from a nearby college (Professor Alice), who is a well-known in…
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How should I handle the "loudest" voice in a group project?

I am in a Software Engineering class in college. Person A likes to be the voice of everyone. For example, I would ask "What do you think of this?" And without any discussion and a very immediate response from person A, "We aren't doing that." All…
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How can I politely tell someone that they should take a shower?

When I was in college, myself and a few friends gathered weekly to play D&D together. One friend had weekly track & field sessions scheduled prior to our meet-ups. Usually, this wasn't an issue, but there were some days where it was very clear that…
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How to tell someone I'm uninterested in them romantically?

I am a trans woman. I began attending college this fall, and, like a lot of students, I immediately began sleeping around. All of the relationships I had were pretty short term, and were mutually understood to be such. About a month ago, I began…
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Is it rude to "sexile" someone the night before a test?

This question is being asked on behalf of a good friend of mine; I was not directly involved in the scenario. This past semester, a friend of mine in college was going to have his girlfriend over to spend a day and a (Sunday) night in his dorm room.…
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What to do when a group conversation is not interesting?

Here's a little background on what type of people I'm dealing with: They're all in the same university that I go to. It's a faculty of engineering that has the most strict entrance exam in my country, so we generally all have high intellectual…
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How to talk to a dean about depression

So I have a meeting with the dean of my school later today. He's a really nice guy, and thinks pretty highly of me (so he's told me, on multiple occasions). We need to talk about the past semester, where I didn't do so well in some important…
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Dealing With Unwanted, Repeated, Public Advances

TL;DR Meghan, a member of a close friend group, is pushing me to attend an event with her via repeated, public statements. I find these confusing, distracting, and would like them to stop, with minimum bridge-burning required. The Problem This year,…
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How to respond when someone that doesn't know my age invites me to something I can't do

Background: I am a 16 year old in high school and due to various opportunities (namely being homeschooled) I have been able to take many courses at a local college. Until recently I have been taking one class per semester which means that I pop up…
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How to make friends during class?

I find the classroom -- whether it be a lecture hall or a smaller class with fewer than 15 people -- to be a difficult environment to build friendships. I'm an extroverted college-aged male. I have no lack of friends outside the classroom. However,…
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How to ask out a German girl in the college?

So I am an international student at a US university and I have acquaintance with a German girl (of the same age but a different program) through her roommates who are my classmates. We always interact whenever we meet at their or our home for…
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How to get to know people who don’t respond to greetings the way I would expect them to

Not sure if this is the right place to ask this question, but here we go. In my college I like talking to people and making connections. I think I am an extrovert. Sometimes when I talk with other students I like to say “hey, how are you?” with a…
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