Interpersonal Skills Stack Exchange
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Questions tagged [making-friends]

Situations where the end goal is to gain someone's friendship or to strengthen it.

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How to befriend someone who doesn't like to talk?

Background: I’m a 22-year-old woman, my brother is a 25-year-old man. We were close growing up, but around high school we drifted apart. As of now I wouldn’t say there’s much friendship between us at all—though to be clear, there is also no…
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How to tell someone I'd like to become friends without causing them to think I'm romantically interested in them?

I met someone at a party last weekend through our mutual friends. We got along pretty well and realized we had some common interests. We discussed a lot until I was called by a friend to help with the barbecue and when I came back, they'd left (they…
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Moving away from Christian faith: how to retain relationships?

I grew up in a pretty religious (evangelical) family. Naturally, I believed what I was taught: the actual religious stuff like love your neighbors and enemies, be humble and kind, and so on. But also that evolution is a hoax, sex before marriage is…
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As an American abroad, how do I know when cheek-kissing is an appropriate way to say goodbye?

The generic question Traveling abroad as an American, especially in Europe, how can I know when I'm expected to cheek-kiss someone as a parting gesture? Is the rule different for men and women? How do these customs relate to hugging or shaking…
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How to show interest in getting to know others while still protecting yourself

I've been criticized for being too reserved and guarded. I've spent time considering how to be more open and 'authentic' with others, but my experiences have only confirmed the necessity of keeping people at a distance. For example, when I let…
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As an intern, how do I make friends with full timers?

I am doing my internship right now. My office has a large number of full timers. They are also much older than me, therefore our age group is not the same. Our job duties are also different, therefore I do not get an opportunity to talk with them by…
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Does Dale Carnegie's "How to Win Friends and Influence People" actually help us find people more interesting?

I'd bought Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People at a used book store years ago and later read it. The message I took away from it was that if we lead people to believe that we find them interesting, then we can get them to behave…
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How do I make it known to a group of friends that I need a little more patience to communicate with?

I am the kind of person that is quiet until I feel welcomed in a group of people, and even then, I still am relatively quiet until spoken to. Important information to consider: I am deaf with cochlear implants. The cochlear implants are hidden…
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How to socialize at pubs/bars when you are alone?

Near my town there's a nice pub which is the only place in a big radius which offers live rock, metal and acoustic music (other venues offers DJs which puts reggaeton, hip hop, trap and EDM) and a good choice of games (pool, mini bowling and…
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How can I offer to take care of the dog of a stranger when he/she is not home?

I live in an apartment building and I can often hear a dog whining in the apartment above mine, presumably because the owner is not home. The noise is only a slight bother, I more so feel bad for the dog not having company. I like dogs and I would…
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What is an alternative to brutal honesty that doesn't involve lying?

I have been criticised on more than one occasion by friends and romantic partners for being "too honest". An example of this might be someone asking me if a dress looks good, and I will say if I think it looks terrible (or beautiful for that…
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How to signify to a coworker I'd like to become friends?

TL;DR I'd like to befriend a coworker with similar hobbies and values but I'm afraid I'd either sound awkward or flirty. How can I make him understand I'd like to become friends? Situation I've been working in the same company for 9 months now.…
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Asking people to meet outside of work/gym/etc

Lately I feel like all the people I meet only get and stay acquaintances to mine. I don't have a huge friend group and would enjoy forming new friendships, going out more with people, etc. If often get stuck in situations where I talk to people I…
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How do I make friends with service staff at restaurants/bars?

There are people at my local brewery I enjoy chatting with casually during down time. We've had some good conversation and things have gone great. My problem is how do I go about inviting them to hang out outside of their workplace? At what…
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How to invite a coworker I'm romantically interested in to a dinner party without sounding like I have an agenda?

There is a nice new guy at my job who I have been getting to know more lately and I think he might like me. He sits at the desk next to mine so we often talk when we are alone in the room. We share interests in fitness and healthy lifestyle and I…
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