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Questions tagged [trust]

Questions about trust with others, whether it has been betrayed, gained, or not given.

Trust is generally acknowledged as something that is hard to gain; friends often have a fair amount of trust with each other, trusting each other with secrets or other confidential information.

Questions here can be about gaining trust, having trust betrayed in you (or others) or not being trusted yourself.

Questions here can be tagged with the tag , provided that the trust in question is being betrayed, or betrayal is also part of the issue.

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Dismissing a stranger asking for help without being dismissive of their possible situation?

For some background into the layout of where this situation takes place, my apartment complex has it's own dog park. Within a few hundred feet of the dog park is a large and spacious public park, surrounded by tall prairie grass. Situation Recently…
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How to confront friend who won't give back borrowed money?

My friends and I decided to buy a birthday present for a person. This friend, let's call him Bob, couldn't come with us to buy the actual present, so he asked me if I could pay for him, assuring me that he would give me the money back as soon as he…
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How to convince people I'm not stealing their food?

I am living in UK university accommodation where everyone has their own room and about 8 or so of us share a kitchen. Over the course of the year food (including mine) was going missing and because I usually don't socialise with them (I usually…
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Bringing up mental illness to dates?

I have bipolar disorder. It is under control, but I read that my children might inherit it and my medicines might affect unborn children. But, I'd like to get married and have children. After starting the treatment, I stopped dating. Now, I'd like…
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Confronting a friend about a betrayal of a confidence

I had, what I thought, was a close friend. I told her something in the strictest of confidence and made it clear that it was personal and not to be repeated and that I had told no one else, which was true, no one else knew. I then went to our…
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Non-tech savvy roommate thinks I hacked into his computer because when he scans wifi it shows my printer connected

My roommate is a bit paranoid about security and privacy. He’s also not very good with computers. He told me he got a message that his gmail account had been compromised, and recently his laptop has been acting slow. He went to network and sharing…
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How to reveal you're not being your true self

A friend of mine got into a relationship after a long drought. Her partner is very sensitive and would react badly to many of her mannerisms - jokes, sarcasm and some ways of saying things that she always did - so at the start of the relationship…
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What techniques are proven ways to fix an unbalance between levels of benevolence-based trust and integrity-based trust?

In my latest answer, I explained the concepts of benevolence-based trust and integrity-based trust: Intentions are more important than honesty for building benevolence-based trust. So, a pro-social deception, even if found out, can still make Alice…
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How to explain to someone that I'm not who I said I was?

Background I have an alternate personality. Not like a medical disability (though it could be argued that the paranoia that started this is a problem), but like a fake life story I use when I need to participate somehow but don't want to use…
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Trust issues with male friend: how to make him understand I can't tell him about everything?

I have recently become close friends with a male classmate in my college. It started with simple straightforward discussions about academics. Then we have grown closer as friends and we daily exchange texts. As of a few weeks ago, the texts were…
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How can I make sure my friends keep secrets?

I told my friends some secrets today... I'm not sure I meant what I even said, as the secret was about a person I did not like very much, and it was rather unpleasant. My friends had asked me why I didn't like that specific person, and I answered…
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(ex)friend scammed me and is trying to discredit me in group of friends. How can I proactivley let them know what happened?

A close and old friend of mine said he knew someone who wanted to hire me to make a computer program. This "someone" provided me with fake id and never paid me. I eventually traced my stolen program and found it was my friend who had been using it…
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How to tell my friends to forget all our past conversations and trust me from now on?

I am 21 years of age and I've been a stupid teller of lies in my past. I've almost never lied in situations where it can be hurtful or destructive. I usually have had spun yarns about past life experiences. Initially, I did it to inspire people with…
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Confront mentor on unwarranted remark

My meditation mentor is convinced that I do not practice at home, while, in truth, I do practice regularly. Her argument is that, in her eyes, I have not improved my attention span, nor my mindfulness seems to have increased (also according to…
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How can I rebuild trust with my girlfriend while still hanging out with a friend?

Background I have been with my girlfriend for 5,5 years by now. We love each other, it was a really great time, but not without downs of course. And one of that downs happened 8 months ago. I think I had some kind of depression back then. I was…
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