Questions tagged [gifts]

For questions regarding the giving, receiving or selection of gifts between anybody. Include other tags for the relationships between the givers and recipients (such as friends or coworkers) and culturally specific information.

Gifts are typically given during special events for people or countries, such as national holidays (Christmas, Easter), or personal Milestones (Anniversaries, Birthdays). Other examples of when gifts can be given are for retirement parties, secret santas, or other "special" or commemorative events. Gifts can still, however, be given out at any other point in time for any reason, and are typically used to show affection. Giving a gift to someone shows you have care for them, and in addition receiving one from someone is a sign that they care for you.

When people select gifts they typically will select gifts with the receivers hobbies in mind - or thinking of the type of gifts that they would enjoy having. In addition they may also consider prices of the gift - which can depend on the importance of the event and also how much the person means to them. Generally more significant events (such as someone's 18th birthday) and people whom are closer to the person (Such as close friends and family) will result in more money being spent on the gift. Gifts can also be made for free, as a result of the giver hand making the gift themselves.

Questions using this tag generally cover receiving or selection of gifts between anybody. Use with the tag of classification of the class of people the question applies to e.g. , also use culturally specific information and age group.

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Can I give flowers to a feminist as a present for hosting a party?

My wife and I are going to a social event to the house of a (not so close but still) friend who is a self-declared and active feminist (e.g. she blogs about it). For such social events, we normally take flowers to the host in gratitude for the…
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How do I clarify that the gift someone gave me is mine when they are asking for it back?

I have a friend - let's call her Jane. Jane's a nice gal. We get along, meetup from time to time (when she doesn't decide to cancel at the last hour) and is someone I actually like hanging out with. As of late I've been turned off from trying to do…
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I gave a "gift" back to a friend after he asked for it back, and now he is trying to tax me for using it

I'm usually good at this sort of stuff but I don't know how to handle this situation. I'll start from the beginning. Backstory About 2-3 years ago, a good friend of mine, Henry, stole a grinder from another "friend" of his and gave it to me. I…
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Should I monetarily reward the person who found my phone?

I just lost my mobile phone in the bus on my way to work (left it on the seat). I called from another phone, and someone answered me, telling me that indeed I had left my phone in the bus seat. We are to meet in a public place by the end of the day,…
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How do I effectively forestall gifts for my birthday?

I have a milestone birthday coming up, and a friend insists on giving me a party. But please, no presents! I don't like stuff to begin with, I have everything I need or want already, and am in de-acquisition mode, culling all my stuff and…
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How can I find out what surprise my wife wants?

My wife never gives any hints about what she wants for her birthday (even after extensive direct questioning), but is sometimes disappointed that I didn’t get her the right thing. This time, it turns out she wanted me to organise a surprise fun…
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How can I convince my girlfriend not to worry about gifts I give her?

Our Background My girlfriend was born in Laos and is currently living with her family in France. Money has always been a problem for her and her family. Her parents both don't earn a lot and regularly ask her for "financial help". While they claim…
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How to make a gift without seeming creepy?

This month I'm going to visit London, how Pokémon fans knows for a very limited time in London will open a Pokémon center and I'll be there in that period. I'm very happy for what was a lucky coincidence (I booked the flight before the announcement)…
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How to find out if a party received your gift if it hasn't been somehow acknowledged?

This past winter, a pair of neighbors dug me out of a snowstorm*. I was incredibly grateful, as it was very deep and it would have taken me days to do what they did together in about two hours. I found out from another neighbor what their favorite…
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How to ask to pay for products from a friend's shop rather than accepting them as gifts without being rude?

Little bit of background: a few weeks ago, my friend/coworker's sister, we'll call her Lila, opened up a shop with her boyfriend, let's call him Mark, about things that generally interest me. I've helped them as much as I could to set up the shop…
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How to imply that the gift is meant for the two of us

The birthday of a friend is coming up. A month after that, there is a concert we both would like to see. So giving those concert tickets would be a great gift. If I just gift her two tickets, she might want to use one to take an other friend. So…
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How to talk to a person not sticking to the rules of a secret santa and disappointing the receiver of their gift?

Time for a holiday-themed question. I lead a small online group in an MMORPG. For the holidays, we decided to exchange gifts ala Secret Santa. As leader, I took it upon myself to organize the whole thing. The mechanics for the gift exchange was…
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Received a large monetary gift from an estranged grandparent - now what?

This afternoon my parents visited me. It was all pretty normal until just before they left, they told me that my estranged grandfather apparently suddenly felt the need to donate a large gift of money to all his grandchildren. Then they handed me an…
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How do I ask my family to stop buying me Star Wars themed presents?

When I was a child I was really into Star Wars, as many children are. Now as a grown man, with my own interests and hobbies, a fully developed brain, and two decades of bad Star Wars movies I have grown to really hate Star Wars - personal opinion,…
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How can I ask guests not to bring alcohol as host gifts?

COVID-19 disclaimer: Denmark has largely lifted their restrictions on social gatherings I was at a social gathering with my coworkers, and as a host gift we all, individually without discussing it, brought different variants of alcohol. Recently I…
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