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Questions tagged [indonesia]

Questions that have a specific focus on people in Indonesia or Indonesian culture.

Some questions require answers that may be specific to a certain region or it's culture and so this is when this tag (and also other location tags such as or ) should be used. When using this tag, it is presumed that the culture/situation reflects that of the average Indonesian person.

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How to say "I'm an adult now" to my parents?

I have an issue with my parents meddling in my personal choices. Let's say they are neutral habits, which means you can't say it's good or bad, like shaking my feet when I'm idle - note that this does not disturb anyone, it's just that they have…
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How to respond to someone who broadcast hoax on a chat group in good faith?

Note: I should mention that this may be a cultural thing in Indonesia to broadcast or share "helpful news/article" in a group chat, or broadcast it to all contacts in BBM (not group. Broadcast is the most horrible feature that made me flee from…
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How can I explain my reduced social activity when depression is stigmatised?

I lost my job a few months ago, and was struggling to find a new one with no success. This led me to becoming less motivated each day, until the point that suicide slipped into my mind - which I instantaneously throw out from my mind. Things were…
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How to politely deal with a friend who asks for a favor and brings up favors I asked previously?

A friend of my friend (which makes her a kind of "distant friend") went into an argument with me today. In this argument, she brought up favors she did for me previously (yes, there were one or two which means very much to me, but I think it's not a…
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How to console grandmother who is sick because of age?

I never thought I would ask this here, but I really don't know what to say to my grandmother right now. This year, she's been admitted to hospital several times. Most of these because of seemingly trivial symptoms, but mostly digestive issues -…
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How to start a conversation with an important person?

My previous employer invited me to have dinner with him. Unexpectedly (by me), he was also inviting the chief police of the area to have dinner with us. After we got ourselves introduced, my ex-boss need to look for things for a while, leaving me…
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Leading a meeting as a shy person?

I'm a shy person, and tend to be the last to speak in a discussion or meeting. But I noticed that in my group (a hobby group), most people are quiet too, and also passive when taking turns in discussion. This is problematic because sometimes we need…
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How to help a friend that is suddenly socially withdrawn?

I have a friend who is usually has no issue with social life but suddenly decided to refuse any social activity, including their close friends. They are still meeting with close relatives and friends, but refuse to go out, even on activities they…
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How to address a friend's misunderstanding of an intention?

One of my friends often misunderstands many friendly gestures. One of them is an offer of mint candy is taken as we are suggesting he has bad breath. It seems he suspects such gestures have a hidden motive, and conversations to have hidden…
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How to approach the owner's handicapped son about him distracting our work?

For the last two weeks, our owner's son has been coming to our office daily to "work". However, he can't work. There's no work that can be assigned to him, and he is constantly distracting us by demanding more work (which he actually can't do). He…
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How to break bad news about the death of a family member to the family?

This is my other question, and you can find the background of this question there. When my grandmother was admitted to hospital, we (the whole family in town) are taking turns staying at the hospital. However, my biggest fear is when her health is…
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How to convince a group of friends to drop a topic that's making the group uncomfortable?

My close friend is a very dominant (DISC) person. Last time, he bashed my ex-high school when we hang out with some friends. He had valid points, and I had admitted it, but nevertheless, I asked him to stop because I take pride in my high school's…
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Invited to a wedding, but didn't get an invitation, what should I do?

A while back ago, my friend married. I was sent an invitation when no one was at home, so it got recalled and sent back to the sender (my friend, at a nearby town). A little background on this friend: we are classmates back in junior high school, in…
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How to handle first encounter with a disabled person?

By first encounter, I mean meeting the person in an event, such a meetup in a cafe, or a seminar, or such. The event is to be expected, but is not planned by us; we are invited to join the event, if we can. There are several that we have been…
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Is it okay to point out someone's keeping quiet in a discussion/meeting?

After reading a related question, I am rethinking about various discussion/meeting where I, and most other leaders/moderators in the discussion/meeting, call out someone for being quiet and not voicing their opinion. The meetings were either casual…
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