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Questions tagged [introverts]

A person who is energized by spending time alone. One who can turn inward or in upon itself. The word "Introvert" can sometimes have negative connotations, because many people are "extroverts".

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How to convince my parents I'm happy with my social life?

Context I'm 19 years old and I live with my mother. I completed an apprenticeship in software engineering earlier this year. I'm now working full time at the company where I finished my apprenticeship to save money for the university. Now, to the…
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How can I say I want to be left alone without having to explain myself or lie about it?

In all my jobs so far I have had coworkers who spent their lunch breaks together. At my current job there are a lot of restaurants close and everyone goes there during their break. I'm a very introverted person, so social interactions can make me…
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Colleague thinks that he is too slow

Background I am frequently working with a colleague who is a little bit junior to me (but not particularly "fresh" - he has been in the company for over 10 years in a lead developer/expert role for some other software). He is relatively new in our…
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How do I continue to be quiet without being rude?

I'm a man of few words, very introverted, and prefer to work in silence where possible (my own silence, music is a must have but I normally wear headphones to avoid bothering others). It's not that I don't like people, I get along well with just…
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What methods help to avoid "that awkward silence"?

Introverted people tend to become embarrassed either when approaching someone or when a certain topic in a conversation runs out. It is often followed by apparently "losing the ability to find a new topic", resulting in silence from both sides. How…
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Will interacting on an electronic forum, tend to improve or deteriorate my real life interpersonal skills?

I spend a lot of time interacting with people online and only a small amounts of time interacting with only a few people in real life. Before the internet (I am an older introvert) I did not interact with a lot of people in real life. Would it be…
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What's the difference between being introvert and being shy?

I noticed some people in chat saying there's a big difference between shyness and being introvert: I am both extremely outgoing and extremely introverted. shyness definitely isn't the same thing as being an introvert Now I've always thought of…
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How can I deal with uncomfortable silence from my partner?

First of all, I want to say that I'm talking about when my girlfriend is silent, it's not 'silent treatment'. I don't feel like she has cruel intentions, or is intentionally trying to hurt me in any way when she goes uber quiet. A better explanation…
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How can I (an introvert) convey to extroverts that I need time to rest/recover after talking?

I'm a really introverted person and conversations can quickly feel quite exhausting and mentally draining for me. Of course I like to have a social life and enjoy it to have nice chitchats with friends, acquaintances, colleagues, etc. - to a certain…
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Do I need to force myself into social interactions

I am 18 year old male, and I have PDDNOS (a form of autism). I don't feel comfortable with most social interactions around strangers. I am struggling with the choice of forcing myself in social interactions. I am an introvert, so I have some…
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How to approach a strategy game against a 5-10 year old child you don't know?

I saw a related question on Parenting, but this one is different, since it's a) about older children and b) not your own child. Disclaimer: This is based on the experience of a friend - I will call him Bob. However, I was present and it got me…
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How to calmly respond to friendly peer-pressure when it's a major pet-peeve?

Every so often I find myself in a situation where a friend or coworker asks if I want to do something social, and I don't want to for some non-committal reasons. By "non-committal" reasons, I'm referring to nights where I need time to myself (I'm…
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How can I get my mom to accept me being introverted?

I'm 21 years-old and still live at my parents' house. Like my dad, I'm pretty introverted. And we mainly like to do our own thing throughout the day. For me, that's playing video games, writing code, etc. However, my mom never really understood…
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How do I tell my guests that I need time alone?

My husband and I live alone and are very introverted. We have very little social interaction apart from each other and often will go days without talking to anyone else because we work from home. As a result, we are not accustomed to spending lots…
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How to talk to people at a singles mixer when you are an introvert?

I am going to a singles mixer in a few days. I'm an introvert and find it hard to make small talk with people I don't know. How do I make the most of a singles mixer (that is, meet people and have meaningful conversations)? Some notes: I find it…
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