Interpersonal Skills Stack Exchange
Interpersonal Skills Stack Exchange

Questions tagged [anger]

Strong emotion about unfair, cruel or unacceptable state or behavior. To be used when question you are asking is dealing with anger of yours (in interpersonal context) or someone/something else.

Anger can be either passive, aggressive (hurtfulness, threats,...) or assertive (blame, punishment, ...). Answers should take into consideration issue is with strong emotion.

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Is a verbal response that directly expresses anger always the wrong choice?

Me: I understand, I'm just saying that I had plans but cancelled them because you said you were gonna show. Him: Well if I knew you were going to be such a baby about it, I would have told you I wasn't going to make it. Me: Well @#$% you then. I…
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Girlfriend gets extremely angry over small issues, how can I help her?

When I went to live with my girlfriend a few years ago I was initially surprised by how she got very angry (using a very aggressive tone, shouting, ecc..) when I did "something wrong". By angry, I mean that she might use a very aggressive tone and…
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How should someone apologize when both parties were wrong?

The situation: I had been involved for several years in a group my child participates in and I was put in charge of a subgroup. Realizing I needed more adult assistance, I asked for help from an acquaintance who is the parent of one of my child's…
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Managing a bad temper in close relationships

I've always had a short fuse. I've been quick to rise and lose my temper, but on the flip side I'm quick to get over it when others lose their cool. The problem is that others usually are not, especially if they are on the receiving end of it.…
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I slapped my 8 year old cousin. What was a better way to handle the situation?

I am a 24 year old boy. My aunt was visiting our home. Her son is an eight year old. He is a most uncontrollable, hyperactive boy. For example, he will switch on the television, watch it from about half a metre away from it, at full volume. He is…
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My girlfriend occasionally blocks me on social media

We have known each other for almost a year, and have been dating for more than 6 months. Most of the time it has been going really well; we like each other and enjoy each other's company. For most of the time we've been together (ca. 5 months), we…
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Wife wants me to be happy (or act happy) all the time

My wife and I have been together around 20 years, and for the most part, we have an excellent relationship. However ... Like anyone else (I suppose) I get tired, depressed, gloomy every once in a while. When this happens, I'm not nice to be around…
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How can I be more convincing when it comes to my words?

I have a big problem with people that know me. I do have slight anger issues (like 0-90 in 1 second, and 90-100 in 10), and I know some people (my friends) that would irritate me just for their amusement. I usually give a threat (i.e. if you keep…
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Trying to limit toxic relationship with family but keep getting dragged back in

This question focuses on my relationship with my mom. Most people who know her find her difficult to be around. She invites me to her place but there’s a 75% chance we get in a fight the first 15 minutes and I have to leave. This is a problem…
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How to deal with sibling who has had a grudge against me for 6+ months over a minor issue?

I have a younger brother who is 19. We don’t have anything in common. I’m a quiet person and don’t like to talk about irrelevant things. My brother doesn’t understand that I’m different, he thinks I am a cold, emotionless person. His main way of…
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How could I have better handled this interaction with a hired company to complete a project?

I've been dealing with a company I hired to perform a personal job (install a product on my property) for over a year ago. It's been an incredibly frustrating experience; fraught with delays, lack of oversight and communication, and general…
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How can I tell my friend to chill out?

I have a friend (we'll call them Dallas) who gets frustrated very easily. Not mad, perhaps, but frustrated and short-tempered as a result of some minor incident. A recent example is that we went to a bar to celebrate a friend leaving our city…
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How to decline attending a funeral

To set the scene my family are very strict on the idea of family and respect. However, I do not wish to attend the funeral for a few reasons. I did not visit this relative for at the very least five years prior to their passing I experience heavy…
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How to tell my mother the way she acts when upset or tired is unacceptable

My mother is a very busy person, which leads to her becoming stressed out and tired. Unfortunately, the way she deals with it is by lashing out at me and my siblings in unfair ways. For example, she will call us "pigs" or tells us we are useless…
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How to be a good backseat driver

I have a lot of experience with highway driving that most of my friends don't have. Rules (from the USA) like only drive in the left lane when you are passing - ie. slow traffic keep right and never merge into another driver's blind spot are…
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