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Questions tagged [conflict-resolution]

This tag should be used on questions where the main goal of the question is resolving an existing conflict.

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How to ask a man to not take up more than one seat on public transport while avoiding conflict?

I live in a big city (in Paris, France) and take public transportation every day. I'm perceived as a woman and I will sometimes have to sit near people who spread out and take up more space than just their seat's worth. I find this behavior very…
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Friend is very nitpicky about side comments I don't intend to be taken too seriously

I have a close friend who seems to hyper-analyze some things I say and gets upset with things he thinks I didn't give much thought to. One example is: we were hanging out and talking about card games that involve bluffing, like poker. I said I…
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Could keeping score help in conflict resolution?

TL;DR: We've all heard that you shouldn't keep score in a relationship. It leads to misunderstandings and arguments. But here's the thing - we already have a lot of arguments. Could keeping score at least settle these arguments, given that we both…
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How can I get my wife to be less spendthrift?

I am married for 15+ years and working at an Indian technology company. These days, layoffs have been so frequent in my industry; for instance at my company they happened twice in the last three years. Thus, I've always been worrying for the last…
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How can I communicate to my wife my concerns about her spending habits?

Some context to begin with: My wife and I have been married for two years now. I earn around 2500€ after taxes, and she used to earn around 1500€ after taxes. We both share one bank account, by the way. I come from a working-class family. While I…
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How to help spouse improve her cooking, without making her feel overly criticized?

I'm at a loss here, I love my wife, she's a hard worker and a great support for me in basically everything. But when it comes to food I don't know what to do. I think she has the capacity to be just as competent as I am in the kitchen. I like plenty…
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How to respond to complaints from strangers about my loud toddler child?

Yesterday we did grocery shopping in our local supermarket, as every week. Normally, my dad would babysit my son (2.5 years) for this time, but it was not possible, so the child joined us. My son was sometimes a bit loud, he's a bit ill which makes…
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How to bring up old problems

Situation When I talk to people, sometimes they will insult me, mock me or, make fun of me but I miss that this is what they are doing and laugh along with them. I do not do this all the time, I understand the obvious ones but from time to time more…
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How to quickly tell if someone is an asker or guesser?

I realised that most of my interpersonal conflicts arise when I (an asker) ask a guesser questions that they find uncomfortable answering. To overcome this, I am thinking that when I meet a new person, I should quickly find out if s/he is an asker…
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Wife hanging out with her brothers, makes husband jealous

I have a friend who is recently married. My friend loves both her husband and her brothers. Frequently, she goes out with her husband and her brothers for a movie night or shopping. During these occasions, she laughs with, talks to and enjoys being…
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Explain to group of friends that I will not show empathy to other friend

Recently, a person in our group of friends, let's call her Rachel, was involved in a car accident. The problem is, she was drunk and driving a stolen car. To give a bit more details : there were two people in the car, both of them drunk, when they…
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How to apologize to a friend I hurt two years ago without scaring them?

I have a friend I met back in elementary school. We didn't talk for awhile but got reacquainted in high school, and at that time, we became friends on FB. I liked to send stuff to her if I found interesting or funny. However, one day during my…
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How to talk with girlfriend about avoiding events because of other people?

Me and my girlfriend were invited to a common friend's farewell party (this friend is going to live in another country). She does not want to go because some people I've been romantically involved in the past might be there. She says that if they…
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Helping my mom accept that I can't be available as much as she wants

My mom moved to the same city as my wife and I about 5 years ago. It's always been a bit rocky, but there is probably one theme that comes up the most regularly. To put it simply, her expectations for my involvement in her life are simply not…
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How to encourage girlfriend to apologize more?

My girlfriend and I have been together for a bit more than 2 years now. At this point, our relationship is stable and we feel good about each other's company. However, there's one thing that really upsets me: she hardly ever apologizes. For example,…
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