Questions tagged [criticism]
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How to shut someone up while being only moderately offensive when they incessantly criticize my house?
I know I am close to OCD about being averse to clutter. I put things away in their designated drawer or shelf, or throw (or give) them away if we are unlikely to use them again. That is, I am a neatnik to extremes, I admit it.
I have a couple…
user1760
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How to address a detail of an idea without appearing to shoot it down?
There is a specific pattern which appears frequently in my conversations and alienates my conversation partners. I would like advice on how to address that pattern as a whole, not just the one example I am giving.
It starts with someone expressing…
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How to tell an artist friend that their art has been getting worse if they think otherwise
Not long ago, a friend of mine got some rather harsh and even somewhat rude criticism, anonymously, that their art has been regressing for a while and that they're squandering all of their potential. This friend responded by simply mocking their…
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How to establish boundaries with parent who is always negative
(In case it matters this question is made on behalf another person)
I have a parent who seemingly lacks the ability to empathize with me. They'll never say things like "I understand you" or "I am sorry to hear that" instead they'll jump in to solve…
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How do I make my criticism constructive?
Occasionally, I will find myself in a position where I believe I have some insight as to how someone could improve. I have been thinking about how to give good constructive criticism and although situations change and I will not always be able to…
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How to tell colleague she is mumbling?
Introduction
The other day, I attended an onboarding session that teaches new hires the history and structure of the company, and also a high-level overview of product architecture, pricing and support contract types. This event happens several…
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Communicating to my partner that I don't want to stop smoking
I (man, 30) have been smoking daily since 2012 (2 to 4 cigarettes/day). I do it only when there is no one I know around.
I started dating a non-smoker (woman, 5 years younger than me) 6 years ago. We have built a very happy and healthy relationship.…
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How can I encouragingly critique my budding photography friend?
My very close friend (I consider her a sibling) is asking for help with promoting their photography on social media to get their amateur photography business off the ground, but they have only a little experience and many pictures up on social media…
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How to properly criticize a poor (scientific) work?
My question:
Are there ways to point out errors of somebody's scientific work without sounding harsh or as if I am discrediting that person?
A lot can be found about criticizing well and proper feedback, but that usually concerns a face-to-face…
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How do I regain respect and professionalism in the face of petty criticism, while learning from said criticism?
Background
I am a high energy person and do tend to snap easily when I have a perfect storm of tiredness, constant work pressure, lack of human interaction due to COVID, and simultaneously spending a lot of my free time looking for a different…
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How to get my adult son to stop criticizing his Dad (me)
Here are three sentences describing what it is that I'm looking for help with:
I'm looking for a way to get across to my adult son that I can no longer tolerate his abusive behavior (criticism/ridicule/rebuke) towards me. I want to maintain a good…
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How to handle a social media response that is factually wrong
On the Nextdoor website, (a platform for physical neighbors,) I posted on a discussion requesting recommendations for a company to widen their driveway. I saw some contractors promote themselves using the word "cement" while clearly meaning to say…
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