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Questions tagged [in-laws]

Questions involving someone's in-law family, interactions between them or also interactions between yourself and one of them. Can also be used for interactions with someone else's in-laws.

In laws are typically family related to you as a result of a marriage, rather than a biological relation to them. This is most commonly as a result of marrying someone, either marrying your partner, or your parents becoming married.

This tag should also be used with the , if them being family also plays a role in the question. Furthermore, this tag should be used with context of the situation you're in, such as .

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How to shut someone up while being only moderately offensive when they incessantly criticize my house?

I know I am close to OCD about being averse to clutter. I put things away in their designated drawer or shelf, or throw (or give) them away if we are unlikely to use them again. That is, I am a neatnik to extremes, I admit it. I have a couple…
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How can I accommodate my in-laws in a hotel without making them feel uncomfortable about me paying for the room?

I want to invite my in-laws, who live in another country, to visit me and my wife. However, we do not have enough space in our apartment for so many people, so I would like to accommodate them in a nearby hotel instead. Unfortunately, given their…
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How to stop being invited to girlfriend's family vacations?

My girlfriend's family likes to take trips together and my girlfriend always goes with them. The problem is that they often want to include me and I'd rather not go. They cover all costs and are actually really nice about it and I don't want to…
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How to repair my relationship with my sister?

My sister and I were best friends growing up. In the past couple of years, she has met, dated, and married a guy with mental health problems that affect their day to day life. My sister didn't know the extent of his problems until after they were…
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How can I find out if my in-laws want to get back together?

My in-laws split a few years ago. The reason wasn't anything big (at least to my opinion) but this is not the point... My wife has spoken with both recently and they both seem to regret getting divorced. They both admitted (separately) it was a…
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How to handle an appearance-obsessed sister-in-law?

I've noticed over time that my sister-in-law is very focused on appearances and how everyone looks. I find this to be a very unpleasant/shallow personality trait. In general, I don't really like her and we have personality clashes but this is one…
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Making a (second) first impression on mother-in-law. How can I survive this?

My mother-in-law hates my guts and we haven't even met yet. This weekend, my wife and I will be meeting up with her parents for the first time after they kicked her out unexpectedly. This will be the first time I'll ever get to talk to her parents…
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How to convey to sister-in-law that I wasn’t planning to invite her to hen night?

I am getting married in eight months. I haven’t made precise plans for the hen yet but I have a good idea of who I’d like to invite. The invitation would not include my sister in law, my brother’s wife. My brother got married about a year and a half…
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How to tell daughter in law not to bring her friend to Easter dinner?

My daughter in law has a close friend that wants to come for Easter Sunday dinner. She invited herself. She is a very sweet girl and I normally do not mind having her around. At the same time, she is very disruptive in the family. She's very loud…
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How to get rid of an unwanted gift from in-laws without hurting feelings?

A few months ago, my wife's father and his girlfriend told us they wanted to get us a big leather chair for Christmas. We didn't really want a leather chair, nor did we have anywhere to put it, so we told them "We really appreciate the offer, but…
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How to tell my in-laws that they are making my spouse depressed?

My wife has been experiencing anxiety and increasingly, depression, as a result of her relationships with family treating her like she is worthless. It is never by words that they give this message to my wife but by their actions {ex: leaving her…
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How to convince co-home-owners to consult me on significant changes/purchases?

I live in the US and my wife and I share a house with my in-laws (and young daughter). We bought the house just over a year ago and myself, my wife and my in-laws are all co-owners. My wife and her parents are Korean and they have a custom of living…
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Can a marriage survive when one side doesn't show due to COVID restrictions?

Two strong-willed families will assemble in the US Mid-Atlantic region. Except, one entire side will not be there due to unforeseen COVID restrictions and quarantine requirements. Only the groom himself and his siblings and parents will attend. Most…
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